Like another reviewer said, you have to take this app (and any date/hookup app) with a generous dose of skepticism. These apps are set up to keep you coming back for two reasons 1) more eyes on the advertising (which pays Scruffs bills) and 2) collect info on you (no surprise there since thats what all apps do). These apps are usually a huge waste of time and provide little payoff to the user (and Scruff does not have reliable message delivery). Youre better off meeting a guy through old-school analog ways than this app. Take it for what it is- a little diversion. But have realistic expectations of its limitations.